Growing up I didn’t think much about whether I was receiving preferential treatment due to my gender. Looking back, maybe I was. It’s hard to say. I always worked and studied and got good grades. I remember school being a little tougher for my brother. Our parents treated us pretty much the same when it came to school, but not when it came to chores around the house. My chores were things like helping with dishes and laundry. My brother took out the garbage and worked on the yard. It all seemed pretty normal to me. But I grew up with a mom and a dad, when feminism was relatively new, but already old. Too many kids don’t have the simple luxury of a mother and a father these days. Many don’t have any male role models at all, except for maybe the ones they find on TV. Could that be the reason we’re seeing a rise in mass murders committed by young men? It’s certainly a plausible theory.
Start with suicide. Each mass murder is also a suicide. Boys and girls at age 9 are almost equally likely to commit suicide; by age 14, boys are twice as likely; by 19, four times; by 24, more than five times. The more a boy absorbs the male role and male hormones, the more he commits suicide.
No manly model
For boys, the road to successful manhood has crumbled. In many boys’ journey from a fatherless family to an almost all-female staff elementary school such as Sandy Hook, there is no constructive male role model.
Adam Lanza is reported to have gone downhill when divorce separated him from his dad. Children of divorce without enough father contact are prone to have poor social skills; to struggle with the five D’s (depression, drugs, drinking, discipline and delinquency); be suicidal; be less able to concentrate; and to be aggressive but not assertive. Perhaps most important, these boys are less empathetic.
And just while their bodies are telling them that girls are the most important things in the world, these boys are locked into failure. Boys with a “failure to launch” are invisible to most girls. With poor social skills, the boys feel anger at their fear of being rejected and self-loathing at their inability to compete. They “end” this fear of rejection by typing “free video porn” into Google and working through the quarter-billion options. Online “success” increases the pain of real world failure.
Read the whole thing. The author suggests a White House Council on Men and Boys, similar to the one President Obama created for girls in 2009. I’m sure the radical feminists would disagree, but as a woman and a mother of two boys, I believe our society has made great strides when it comes to equality for women, and we really need to stop this war on boys. There’s been a great focus on raising strong women, but our boys are going to grow into men one way or the other. What kind of men do we want to raise?
I don’t mean to dump on single moms here, especially those who are in that situation due to tragedy or for other reasons out of their control. But in those cases (and all cases) it’s probably important to reach out to male family members and close friends to mentor the sons, as well as the daughters. So many radical feminists have gone out of their way to vilify men, it’s just sad. And it could be deadly.